Happiness is… imperfection

I’m a recovering perfectionist. Many of us are obsessive pedants, paralysed by the need to have things “just right”. We are often useless at delegation because we worry that nobody else can do the job as well as we can. And we don’t enjoy our successes because we’re too busy fretting that they’re not asContinue reading “Happiness is… imperfection”

Does she feel pain?

We started our morning today with our new unpleasant weekly ritual: To give Shaina an injection. You betcha she doesn’t like it, but she doesn’t cry. Today, after Naomi administered the shot, Shaina looked at me and announced, “It’s sore”. I wasn’t sure if I should whoop or cry. The only thing worse than seeingContinue reading “Does she feel pain?”

Kindness across the ocean

You never know where kindness will lead. When we first launched Shaina’s kindness campaign, our goal was to bring light and meaning to a very challenging experience. We wanted Shaina to be celebrated as a force for good rather than “that poor girl”. The first sign that we were headed in the right direction cameContinue reading “Kindness across the ocean”

Speaking to the Great Professor

I will admit to feeling high levels of stress and anxiety yesterday. Thankfully, I remembered the story of the Professor of Hanipoli.  Shaina started coughing (again) earlier this week. A visit to her pulmonologist confirmed what we had suspected: a viral chest and ear infection. We left with a shopping list for the pharmacy andContinue reading “Speaking to the Great Professor”

Choosing the right lenses

Shaina will often perch a pair of glasses on the tip of her nose and announce that she is a granny. It’s a super-cute reminder that reading glasses are for old folk. Only, I don’t laugh as much as I used to. I’ve worn glasses ever since my third-grade teacher told my mom I couldn’tContinue reading “Choosing the right lenses”

A world of kindness

“Hello young girl, what is your name?”  Shaina turns heads wherever she goes. In the height of Covid, when her face mask swallowed up most of her face, her twinkling eyes drew people to her. When she walks the hospital corridors, nurses, visitors and cleaners lean in and wave to catch her eye. When sheContinue reading “A world of kindness”

You might not expect this from a rabbi

When I burst into our house on that Saturday morning last year when Naomi had her stroke, our daughter came to greet me, phone in hand. You might think that’s no big deal, but it really is. A phone is off-limits in an Orthodox Jewish home on Shabbos (a.k.a. Shabbat, the Sabbath). And I wasContinue reading “You might not expect this from a rabbi”

Finding words

I’m sure you remember the exhilarating feeling you had when your first child said their first word. It’s thrilling to see your child discover the gift of being able to share what they need or feel.  You probably also remember those heart-wrenching times when your newborn cried incessantly, and you simply couldn’t work out whatContinue reading “Finding words”